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The Best Investment

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Authors note:  The best investment is people. People come with their own baggage of personality and character. Being too nice invites cruelty. Dale Carnegie 's book on " How to Win Friends and Influence People " is now a manual on manipulation, flagged up by every scam alert watchdog. You either have friends from school, or colleagues who care enough about you... otherwise you're bound to be alone. It isn't so bad being alone, except people in the West misjudge this feature as a sign of psychopathology. It's not good to vent, it's not good to put everything on social media, pretend everything is okay. Always! People, Loneliness, and the Ties That Bind in Old Age . The best investment is people. But let's dive deeper into this. In a world obsessed with connections— LinkedIn networks, Facebook friends, Instagram followers—we've commodified relationships. Yet, the psychology behind human bonds reveals a more nuanced picture. Investing in people isn...

What is The Danish Deception?

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In the glittering world of social media and reality TV, stories of whirlwind romances often captivate us, promising happily ever afters amid exotic backdrops. But what happens when the prince turns out to be a pauper in disguise, wielding deception as his crown? This is the essence of " The Danish Deception ," a harrowing saga shared by Onyeka Ehie , a Nigerian-American former contestant on ABC's The Bachelor (Season 23) and Bachelor in Paradise (Season 6). Onyeka, often affectionately called by variants of her name like Oyinka in some cultural contexts (though her full name is Onyeka Ehie), took to TikTok in November 2025 to unravel a 27-part series detailing how she was scammed out of over $300,000 by her ex-husband, Martin Fredsgaard Andersen, a white Danish man who posed as royalty.  This story isn't just about one woman's heartbreak; it's a mirror to societal flaws where racial prejudices make exploitation easier. As we navigate this, remember: scams t...

Dangerous Driving in Africa

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A Wake-Up Call on Road Safety in Africa On December 29, 2025, the world of boxing and beyond was shaken by news of a horrific car crash in Nigeria involving former heavyweight champion Anthony Joshua . The accident, which occurred on the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway in Ogun State , resulted in the deaths of two individuals close to Joshua and left the athlete himself with minor injuries. This incident not only highlights the personal loss suffered by Joshua and his team but also underscores a broader crisis: the pervasive issue of dangerous driving across Africa and other developing countries. In this blog, we'll delve into the details of the accident, the latest findings from investigations, and how it ties into systemic problems like disregarded speed limits and poor road safety enforcement.   Silence or politeness in the face of recklessness only perpetuates the problem.  Anthony Joshua, the British-Nigerian boxing superstar known for his dominance in the ring and his cha...

Who is Sandra Horley ?

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 Who is Sandra Horley ? Sandra Horley, OBE, is a prominent figure in the UK's fight against domestic violence . Born in Canada, she moved to the UK and began her career in social work, eventually becoming the chief executive of Refuge , one of the country's leading charities dedicated to supporting victims of domestic abuse. Horley led Refuge for over three decades, from the 1980s until her retirement in 2020. Under her leadership, Refuge grew from a single shelter into a national network providing safe housing, counseling, and advocacy for thousands of women and children each year. She was awarded an OBE in 2011 for her services to the prevention of domestic violence and has been a vocal campaigner, appearing in media outlets and influencing policy. [insert your ad here] Horley's work is deeply rooted in feminist principles, emphasizing that domestic violence is not just isolated incidents but a manifestation of systemic gender inequality. She has authored books, including...

What Is Learned Helplessness?

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Learned Helplessness : Breaking the Chains in Black Communities and Africa. Learned Helplessness  is a psychological concept that describes a state where individuals, after enduring repeated adverse experiences over which they have no control, come to believe that they are powerless to change their circumstances.  This belief persists even when opportunities for change arise, leading to passivity, resignation, and a lack of initiative. The term was coined by psychologists Martin Seligman and Steven Maier in the 1960s through experiments on animals, where subjects exposed to inescapable shocks failed to escape later when escape was possible. In humans, this manifests as depression, low motivation, and a pessimistic outlook on life.In the context of marginalized groups , learned helplessness often stems from systemic oppression, historical trauma, and cultural narratives that reinforce feelings of inevitability.  For black people as a collective—encompassing African Ameri...

What is Self Agency ?

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In the relentless machinery of capitalism, where ideas collide and fortunes are forged, a quiet revolution is underway. As artificial intelligence democratizes access to knowledge and problem-solving, raw intelligence—once the holy grail of achievement—fades in prominence. What emerges as the ultimate differentiator is agency: the unyielding drive to act, to seize opportunities, and to execute boldly in the face of uncertainty. This isn't a new concept; it's woven into the fabric of economic history. From the daring explorers of the Renaissance to the disruptive entrepreneurs of today, capitalism has always rewarded those who move decisively rather than those who merely think profoundly. The argument for agency's supremacy over intelligence in capitalism stems from the system's core principles: risk-taking, innovation, and value creation through action. Intelligence can generate ideas, but without agency—the proactive will to implement them—those ideas remain inert. As...